Divorce later in life, often referred to as “gray divorce,” has become increasingly common in recent years. Experts predict that divorce after 50 will continue to grow, with numbers doubling between 1990 and 2015.
While contemplating divorce after the children have reached adulthood may seem like a liberating prospect, it’s important to recognize that co-parenting remains a vital aspect of this new chapter. Divorce can be a courageous step toward embracing a fresh chapter in life, but co-parenting is necessary even when the children are grown.
Embracing Change:
If you find yourself considering divorce after your children have grown, know that many others share your journey. When circumstances become irreparable, divorce can serve as a courageous step toward embracing a fresh chapter in life. However, it’s crucial to recognize that co-parenting is still necessary, even when the children have reached adulthood.
The Lifelong Role of Co-Parenting:
Contrary to popular belief, parental responsibilities do not end with divorce. Both you and your ex will continue to play a significant role in your children’s lives as they complete their education, get married, and establish their own families. Holiday planning, emergencies, and offering emotional support are still important.
The Needs of Adult Children:
Your children still look to you as parents for a sense of belonging, emotional stability, direction, and an example of healthy relationships. Additionally, you have a special chance as grandparents to practice positive grandparenting in the lives of your grandchildren.
What is healthy co-parenting for those with adult children?
Co-parenting after a gray divorce may seem challenging, especially if the relationship with your ex is strained. However, adopting healthy co-parenting practices is crucial for the well-being of everyone involved. According to an article in Psychology Today, the following are important elements of successful co-parenting:
- Prioritizing your children’s wellbeing
- Treating the other parent with respect
- Maintaining open lines of communication
- Being consistent with each other in decision-making
- Adapting to life’s changes
If you’re considering divorce, it’s important to understand the challenges it may present and explore your legal options. A compassionate attorney who genuinely cares about your family’s well-being can help navigate this process. Cooperation with your ex, mutual respect, and a commitment to your children’s and grandchildren’s well-being is key.
Remember, seeking guidance from an attorney who understands can make a big difference in your road toward a successful post-divorce future.
