Deciding to file for divorce is not something most people come to easily. After all, separating your life from your spouse’s is bound to change it forever.
While this is true, once you decide to divorce it is important to prepare. Here are a few tips that will help you get ready for a divorce:
- Determine a good time to discuss the divorce
It’s best to discuss your decision in a neutral setting. If you have children, make sure they won’t be at home. It’s also best to choose your timing carefully. You can set the tone for your divorce through a calm, rational approach to the situation – rather than by announcing you want to end your marriage in the middle of a fight.
Later, make a plan to tell your children together and present a united front. This will help your children see that they don’t need to take sides and that they are loved by both of their parents.
- Gather all your financial and legal information
When filing for divorce, money is an important topic. You need to gather all your financial information. This includes bank information, tax filings, credit card statements, car loans, business records and anything else that will help create a clear picture of your marital assets and debts. It may also be wise to have certain high-value items appraised so you know their current worth (not just what you paid for them).
You should also gather copies of important legal documents such as any prenuptial or postnuptial agreements and your estate plan.
- Make interim plans for your separation and your children
In North Carolina, you will need to live separately for a year and a day before you can file for divorce. During this period of separation, you will need to decide where you will live, how the bills will be paid, how you will co-parent the children and which party should pay child support. Negotiate these details with an eye toward making arrangements you can live with in the long term.
- Avoid oversharing on social media
The information you post on social media can affect things like custody of the children and spousal support. Because of this, you should avoid making any type of negative statement or posting something that may be used against you. It might be best to take a break from social media until your divorce is final.
If you have decided on divorce, you don’t have to go through it alone. Work with a compassionate attorney who will go the extra mile to help.