If this is your kids' first fall back at school since your separation or divorce, or if they're starting a new school this year, it's essential for you and your co-parent to have a plan in place. Your plan should include things like how you'll handle drop-offs and pick-ups, homework assignments and projects, school lunches, field trips, parent-teacher conferences and more.
When couples with young children divorce, they often work out a joint custody agreement that allows both of them to have time with their kids and be involved in their lives.
It's not so unusual these days for couples to be together for a long time and have children, but never marry. This isn't just something that celebrities do. People in all parts of the country and from all walks of life choose not to tie the knot for any number of reasons.
Most divorcing parents go into child custody negotiations hoping to work out a custody and visitation schedule together, along with their attorneys, that they can both be satisfied with and that -- most importantly -- is best for their kids.
If you're divorcing a spouse who often engages in passive-aggressive behavior rather than handle disagreements openly and the two of you will be sharing custody of your children, you may see that behavior continue in your co-parenting relationship.
Whether you have primary custody of your kids or you only have weekends and occasional holidays with them, when you remarry, you'll want your children to have a good relationship with their new stepparent. Generally, this bonding begins before you and your new significant other marry.
Even if you and your co-parent have worked to avoid spending any more time than necessary together since your divorce, a child's graduation is one of those occasions where you'll likely have to be together. You may also have to deal with ex in-laws you may not have seen for a long time or your ex's new significant other.
Sometimes the relationship between separated or divorced parents is so conflict-ridden that they're unable to co-parent their children healthily. Some states, including North Carolina, have laws that address the role of parenting coordinators (PC) in these high-conflict cases.
Many divorced parents have no interest in getting into a new romantic relationship for some time after their marriage ends. They're still adjusting to their new lives. Often they want to be single for awhile. More importantly, they don't want to introduce a new significant other into their children's lives.
Your children might feel insecure and unsure about what is going to happen when they find out that their parents are divorcing. At this junction, you and your ex will have to do what you can to reassure them that life will continue once everything settles after the divorce. It is vitally important that you find ways to help the children find the stability and consistency that they can rely on.