If you and your ex both have custody of your children, that can make it hard for you to move. A significant relocation typically has to be cleared by the court, which will decide if the move is necessary and in the children's best interests.
The thing to remember is that the assumption from the court is often that the move is a negative change for your children. It takes them away from their friends. They have to go to new schools. Their lives feel chaotic and unsettled.
Plus, the move may take you far enough away that the kids can no longer realistically see your ex. With joint custody, he or she has as much of a right to be involved as you do. The court is wary of people who may decide to move simply to spite an ex, infringing on his or her parental rights.
So, how do you prove that the move is good for the kids? A few common reasons for a relocation include:
- You have been offered a higher-paying job, and the kids will benefit from that income.
- You have found a new place to live that is nicer and/or more affordable.
- You want to move so the kids can be close to their grandparents and other extended family members.
The key thing to remember is that the court cares about your children the most. Their best interests are the focus at all times. When you ask for permission to move and perhaps modify the existing custody arrangement, you need to know how to show the court that it's to the children's benefit to do so.
Source: The Spruce, "Child Custody Relocation Rules," Debrina Washington, accessed Feb. 23, 2018